A story of following your dreams
I know the idea of "just follow your dreams" seems like a faraway fairy tale or a bland quote found on a Pinterest board, but we can step outside societal norms, put down our phones and comparisons to curate our lives to bring us joy. All it takes is a bit of planning and a willingness to do things differently, if you read on, I will show you my personal journey of how I have achieved just that.
A few years ago my life looked very different to how it does today. Today is Wednesday on the last day of November for 2022, the sun is shining and so far, I have attended a friends yoga class, gone for a surf in clear tropical waters and had a delicious lunch amidst a backdrop of palm trees.
I have a pretty wonderful life.
I designed it that way, and so can you.
We all have an idea of what our ‘dream life’ would look like, usually something we have stolen from a Pinterest board or Instagram quote, but rarely do we really think about what would actually make us happy, or we dismiss it as not being realistic or practical. We move images of our idyllic life into the folder in our mind marked "day dream".
I did this for years, while attempting to squeeze my life into a perception of what I thought I should be doing, what would make me seem cool, accepted and more importantly allow my Dad to not have to worry about me.
Make a decision to change your life
Get clear on what lights you up
Get clear on the limitations you have set for yourself
Start taking the steps that honours yourself and authentically brings you joy, many of these things can be incorporated into your life easily and immediately. If you love fresh flowers on your kitchen table, make it a priority. Have a lipstick that just makes you feel glorious? Wear it to go to the supermarket.
I slowly started to weave into my life the things I was passionate about, I dusted off my fabric collection and made cushions. I wore my favourite dress just to walk in the park and always had chocolate in the house.
Take a leap of faith
Change takes courage, it requires you to step outside your comfort zone and do something different. At some point you will need to take that leap, burn the bridges (or is it boats) and go for it.
If you don’t try you will never know.
I rented out my flat, packed up my belongings, storing them in my sisters’ garage and with 2 surfboards, one suitcase and many jars of marmalade I moved to Bali in Indonesia.
That was 3 years ago.
The beauty of a plan is once you have made it, you just follow the steps and before you know it, you’re in a completely different place, living a completely different life.
Be kind to yourself
Unlike in the movie’s things will inevitably come up that will require you to grow and adapt, new challenges will present themselves and a happy ending is, in reality, just a beginning.
As you adapt to your new life be kind to yourself, look back on how far you have come and silently congratulate yourself on a daily basis.
You have made it, you are living.
I still get moments when I am consumed by sadness, business struggles and bad days, but I have curated my life to suit who I authentically am and what gives me my very best chance of happiness.
Your dream life will likely look very different from mine but take confidence from my journey that whatever it is, it is within reach.
Since moving to Bali, I have surfed some of the most perfect waves in the world and during the pandemic often with just a handful of friends. I have seen the dawn and sunset every day and made new friends that I now cannot imagine my life without.
But most of all I have made friends with me, as I am, a quiet, nature seeking oddball in love with fabrics and surfing.
A big part of my success is down to my business ‘The World in Cushions’ which gives me purpose and investing which allows me to feel I am taking care of my future self. If you would like to know more about my story then please reach out, I love a chat!